SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of April 23, 2018
"More and more people are suffering from anxiety due to many different factors relating to our modern lifestyle among other things and unfortunately this trend increasingly affects our children. Anxiety is a very abstract, frightening and confusing experience and children often are unable to recognise anxiety for what it is." For additional information, read the following article:
- How can I explain anxiety to my child? - Alexandra Koster - The New York Times
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of April 16, 2018
"Adolescents seem to ... develop an allergy to their parents ... This allergy usually has a sudden onset around age 13 and can last for months or, in some cases, years. While it's no fun to become the parent who cannot order food or hum along to a song without irritating his or her own child, we're better able to ride out this temporary adolescent affliction when we appreciate its causes." For additional information, read the following articles:
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of April 9, 2018
"As parents, we want our children to be emotionally resilient --- able to handle life's ups and downs. But parents' ability to foster resilience in our children hinges a great deal on our own emotional resilience. 'A parent's resilience serves as a template for a child to see how to deal with challenges, how to understand their own emotions'." For additional information, read the following articles:
S P R I N G B R E A K - Week of April 2, 2018
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of March 26, 2018
"Oprah is shifting her perspective on how childhood trauma impacts people's lives. For '60 Minutes,' Winfrey traveled to Milwaukee ... to learn about a revolutionary approach in the city to early trauma. She spoke to Dr. Bruce Perry, a world-renowned expert in the field ... He said a child's brain gets wired 'differently' when they're raised in a chaotic or violent environment. 'If you have developmental trauma, the truth is you're going to be at risk for almost any kind of physical health, mental health, social health problem that you can think of,' Perry told Winfrey ... [who] believes the conversation could be a game changer." For additional information, watch the "60 Minutes" episode and read the following articles:
- What Oprah Knows for Sure About Adverse Childhood Experiences - Arlene Karidis - Today's Parent
- Treating Childhood Trauma - Oprah - 60 Minutes
- The "Life-Changing" Story Oprah Reports This Week - Oprah - 60 Minutes Overtime
- The Science of Trauma, Mindfulness & PTSD - Jennifer Wolkin - Mindful Magazine
- Healing Trauma Through Mindfulness - Mindful Magazine
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of March 19, 2018
"... the key to better parenting and better mental health may be as simple as letting go of worry and releasing ourselves from judgment. In other words, mindfulness. Just to clarify, mindfulness doesn’t dictate that you like the crying, just that you shift your awareness to the present situation and show compassion toward yourself and your child. ." For additional information, read the following articles:
- How Mindful Parenting Differs From Just Being Mindful - Jill Suttie - Mindful Magazine
- Can Living in the Moment Make You a Better Parent? - Sarah Wheeler - Mindful Magazine
- The Captain Steers the Ship - Susan Stiffelman - Mindful Magazine
- Dr. Dan Siegel | What Hearing "Yes" Does to Your Child's Brain - Lou Hanessian - Mindful Magazine
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of March 12, 2018
"Self-care is not selfish; it's one of the best things you can do for your kids ... a few hours away can re-energize you so you can get back to playing with Legos, making dinner and taking care of everyone else ... Maintaining the basic day-to-day with no extraordinary circumstances ... is a really demanding endeavor ... Being on and at the ready for your children at all times can cause burnout ... That's why it's important that all parents start taking real, regular days off." For additional information, read the following articles:
- Why self-care is an important part of parenting, and how to make time for it - Lindsey Roberts - The Washington Post
- 3 Steps for Starting a Self Care Routine - Move This World
- 21 Ways to Practice Self Care Right Now - Move This World
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of March 5, 2018
"When your children are young, their lives revolve around family. They come to you for comfort, guidance, reassurance and safety -- for almost everything. They they reach adolescence, and family takes second stage as their peers become the center of their attention. They engage with you less. They roll their eyes at everything you say. They spend the majority of their waking hours in their bedroom with the door closed only to come out for food or water." If this sounds familiar, you may want to read the following article.
- From Teenager to Mean-Ager ... 6 Tips for Parents to Connect with their Teens - Kristin Race, PhD - MindfulLifeToday.com
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of February 26, 2018
"Keeping our kids safe and giving them the skills to do this is of utmost importance. [However,] there is so much more to cyber safety than avoiding predators. The emotional and social well-being of our kids and the ability for them to be in the best position possible to learn, grow and thrive are imperative, and will help them become resilient and happy both online and off." For additional information, read the following article.
- Moving beyond cyber safety for happy, resilient digital kids - Martine Oglethorpe
- How to Find the Right Amount of Screen Time
"Screen time is a daily battle. Between kids and parents, between ourselves and our better judgement. But maybe it doesn't have to be. There is a better way."
- Should We Post Photos of Our Kids Online?
"A third of kids are online before they're even born, thanks to sonogram images posted to Facebook. Is there a downside to all the kid photos we share?"
- Play Video Games for Your Mental Health
"You judge the person playing Candy Crush. Even when it's you. But that mental fist pump from leveling up has real value. How to stop judging and use games for a strategic reset."
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of February 19, 2018
In her article entitled "Am I invisible? The Pain-Relieving Response to Being Rejected or Excluded," Rachel Macy Stafford addresses the issue of loneliness and exclusion. "Regardless of how anyone treats you, you stand to benefit. While some people teach you who you do want to be, others teach you who you don't want to be ... With one invitation, we can take someone from outsider to insider, from outcast to beloved member, from unknown neighbor to coffee companion, from wallflower to life-of-the-party, from shortened life expectancy to 80 years of joy." For additional information, read the following articles.
- Am I Invisible? The Pain-Relieving Response to Being Rejected or Excluded - Rachel Macy Stafford
- 8 Tips for Helping Shy Kids Make Friends - Susan Stiffelman - Huffington Post
- 4 Tips to Help a Shy Teen Make High School Friends - Jon Beaty
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of February 12, 2018
"Research shows us that emotional regulation is one of the key factors for the development of resilience and well-being ... being able to understand and manage our emotions, particularly those strong emotions which can hijack and threaten to overwhelm us, can allow us to feel more in control and respond, rather than react, to difficult situations. There are many strategies which may help the development of emotional regulation in children, and teaching them about the 90 second rule is one of them." For additional information, read the following articles.
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of February 5, 2018
"Managing our own emotions and behaviors is the key to teaching kids how to manage theirs ... Mindful parenting does not mean being a “perfect parent” and is not something you can fail at. It is not easy and it takes practice, but like many aspects of parenting, some days are good and some are bad and you can always try again. You may forget to be mindful, but the second you realize you are distracted, it is an opportunity to make a different choice – the choice to be present." For additional information, read the following articles.
- Mindful Parenting: How to Respond Instead of React - By Jill Ceder, Contributor - Huffington Post
- How Mindful Parenting Differs From Just Being Mindful - By Jill Suttie - Mindful.org
- The 5 Main Tenets of Mindful Parenting - By Lisa Kring - Huffington Post
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of January 29, 2018
"Parenting preteens, or tweens, can be a challenge. Discipline, school, homework, time with family -- everything is renegotiated ... but tweens need to feel they have a secure nest as they launch themselves into the exciting but scary world outside the family." Read the following article for additional information. (And, check out the the Aha! Parenting website for other great articles as well.)
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of January 22, 2018
Manoush Zomorodi is a podcast host, author, and relentless examiner of the modern human condition. As host of Note to Self, the podcast from WNYC Studios, she reminds us to question everything. Is your phone listening to you? Can wexting (walking while texting) make you smarter? Is Amazon taking over the world? This is a podcast for anyone trying to preserve their humanity in the digital age.
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of January 8, 2018
With report cards coming home this week, most of us are working under the assumption that being an "A" student in school is a requirement for professional success, but not according to a study by Tom Corley. He surveyed a number of high net-worth individuals and found that most of the people surveyed did not earn the highest GPAs in school. In fact, only 21% of the self-made millionaires were "A" students. 41% were "B" students, and 29% were "C" students. According to Corley, "Individuals who struggle academically may be more accustomed to dealing with struggle and making it a daily habit to overcome pitfalls. In short, they become mentally tough, which creates a foundation for long-term success." Read the articles below for additional information:
- 8 of 10 Self-Made Millionaires Were Not 'A' Students. Instead, They Share 1 Trait - Jeff Haden
- 7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness - Jeff Haden
- These 2 Four-Letter Words Are the True Secret of Success - Jeff Haden
- Most Self-Made Millionaires Didn't Get A's in School - Thomas C. Corley
- 5 Habits of People With Remarkable Willpower - Jeff Haden
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of January 1, 2018
Congratulations to Ms. Rachel Keim and her Fifth Grade students for winning the Move This World video contest! Be sure to check out their video on our SEL at Meigs website. (See the video.)
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of December 5, 2017
"It may seem like a bitter irony that the holiday season, which is supposed to cheer us up and bring us together, ends up stressing us out. Why is that the case? It's got to be more than the cold short days of winter. And in fact, it is." For more information, read the articles below. And, remember, your children feel the stress of the holiday season too. Share the "Teen's Guide To Surviving December" with them.
- Train Your Brain to Tame Holiday Stress and Anxiety - Judson Brewer - Mindful Magazine
- Holiday Stress: Teen's Guide To Surviving December - Slideshow - Huffington Post
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of November 27, 2017
"Stress is the way our bodies respond to the demands that are placed upon us by ... events and issues in our lives. Stress is part of everyday life, and we all experience and react to it in different ways. We tend to think of stress as a bad thing, but a certain amount of it actually helps us feel alert, energized and interested in life ... Too much stress, however - particularly when we don't have any control over it - can interfere with our ability to respond to everyday challenges." For more information, read the articles below.
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of November 20, 2017
"Although it's nice to count your blessings on Thanksgiving, being thankful throughout the year could have tremendous benefits on your quality of life. Cultivating gratitude doesn't cost any money, and it certainly doesn't take much time, but the benefits are enormous." Read the following articles if you would like to learn more.
- 7 Scientifically Proven Benefits Of Gratitude That Will Motivate You To Give Thanks Year-Round - Amy Morin - Forbes
- Seven Ways to Foster Gratitude in Kids - Greater Good Magazine
- Teaching Kids Gratitude - Parenting.com
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of November 13, 2017
"There are so many valuable qualities we want to instill in our children — why should we focus on gratitude? Grateful teens are not only more pleasant to be around, but according to one study, they are also less likely to abuse drugs and alcohol, be depressed and have behavioral problems at school. " Read the following articles if you would like to learn more.
- From Entitled to Thankful: Raising Children With an Attitude of Gratitude - David Sack. M.D. - Huffington Post
- Gratitude Conversation Starters - Terri Thompson - CreativeFamilyFun.net
Gratitude Conversation Starters - Printable PDF
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of November 6, 2017
"When I was growing up, I didn’t know that anger is just a feeling. To me anger meant withdrawal of love. My mother didn’t tell me she was angry. She just wouldn’t speak to me . . . My childlike mind twisted that to mean that people would stop loving me if I got angry . . . The Anger Wheel of Choice can help our children learn another way." Please read the following articles to learn more.
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of October 30, 2017
Why You Should Never Use Timeouts on Your Kids . . . I ran across this two-part article, published by PBS, and was immediately intrigued. No timeouts? But... but... but... Well, "decades of neuroscience and social research have shown that timeouts and other methods of punishment are not only ineffective in steering the behavior of children but outright damaging." If you are also intrigued, please read the following articles (make sure to read both parts) to learn more.
- Part 1 - Why You Should Never Use Timeouts on Your Kids - By Wendy Thomas Russell - PBS.org
- Part 2 - 12 Alternatives to Timeouts When Kids are at Their Worst - By Wendy Thomas Russell - PBS.org
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of October 23, 2017
Why are more American teenagers than ever suffering from severe anxiety? Anxiety is the most common mental-health disorder in the United States, affecting nearly one-third of both adolescents and adults, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. But unlike depression, with which it routinely occurs, anxiety is often seen as a less serious problem. Read the following article to learn more.
- Why Are More American Teenagers Than Ever Suffering From Severe Anxiety - By Benoit Denizet-Lewis - The New York Times
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of October 16, 2017
I saw a poster the other day that said, "Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff." (Catherine M. Wallace) Read the following articles on being a good listener to your children.
SEL for Parents - Meigs Memos - Week of October 2, 2017
Parenting is a challenge, and "today's parents raise their children way more differently than they were raised. Every parent asks the same questions: Am I missing something? Am I doing everything right? Will my child succeed in life?" According to psychologists at Harvard University, the key to upbringing a well-adjusted child in these changing times is not as complicated as you may think. Read the following article by Simon Segal.
- According To Harvard Psychologists: Parents Who Raise "Good" Kids Do These 5 Things - Curious Mind Magazine - Simon Segal